When someone we care about is dealing with loss, we just want to express our love and support. But finding the right words for a sympathy card message can sometimes feel tricky. Well, we’ll level with you, there isn’t really a right or wrong thing to write here. As long as your words are kind and compassionate, they’ll know you’re thinking about them—and sometimes that’s comfort enough.
But if you’re really struggling with what to write in a sympathy card, here are 16 condolence messages to help you express your support.
Sympathy Messages for Family Members
A loss in the family hits everyone hard, and while you can provide in-person comfort at the wake, it’s important to offer condolences in those first few weeks of grief and funeral planning too. A sympathy card message is a simple expression of love and support that can go a long way. You could also send a funeral wreath or spray.
- I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire family during this difficult time.
- With deepest sympathy as you remember [loved one’s name]. If there’s anything I can do, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
- Sending you all my love and support. [Loved one’s name] will always hold a special place in my heart.
Sympathy Card Messages for Loss of a Pet
Losing a furry friend isn’t easy. Anyone with a pet knows they’re an extension of the family, so they’re passing is felt deeply. Sympathy card messages are great ways to share happy or silly memories, validate their grief, and celebrate their bond.
- I’m so sorry to hear about [pet’s name]’s passing. [He/She] brought so much joy and that love will stay with you forever.
- Thinking of you during this difficult time. [Pet’s name] will be remembered fondly and has left paw prints in all our hearts.
- Thinking of you. I hope you find comfort in the beautiful memories you shared with [pet’s name].
Sympathy Card Messages for a Friend
When grieving, friends often turn to their family first for comfort—but knowing other support systems are out there can really help too. Here’s what to say in a sympathy card to tell your friend you’re only ever a phone call or message away.
- My heart is breaking for you after your loss. If you ever need me, just send a message. I’ll be checking in on you frequently.
- I’m sending you all my love and strength during this difficult time. You’re not alone in this. I’m here for you and keeping you close in my thoughts.
- Grief is such a hard journey, but you don’t have to walk it alone. I’m here to support you every step of the way, however you need me.
Condolence Messages When You Cannot Attend the Service
If you can’t attend a service to offer in-person comfort, it’s worth sending your condolences and apologies. Briefly acknowledge that you sadly can’t make the memorial and let them know you’re thinking of them.
- I wish I could be with you and offer my support in person, but know that visiting you will be one of my top priorities in the coming months.
- It’s so hard to accept that [loved one’s name] is really gone, and even harder that I can’t be there with you during the service. I hope you still feel all the support and love in the world, both from me and everyone who will be there.
- Even though I can’t be there for [loved one’s name]’s service, I just want you to know I’m here to drop off food, mow the lawn, or support you in any way I can.
Religious Sympathy Messages
It’s not always easy to know what to say when someone dies. But if you and the recipient share faith, you can lean into that spirituality to offer comfort during their time of need.
- I am praying for you to get through this time with the peace that comes from knowing God loves and will take care of you.
- May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief. Please accept my sincerest condolences.
- You have my deepest sympathies. May you find comfort in the Lord’s warm embrace.
What NOT To Say in a Sympathy Card
Okay, we lied a little early. Some phrases and sentiments are best avoided in sympathy card messages for loss as they can be misinterpreted (even if the intention behind them was good). Here are some examples:
- “This happened for a reason.” - You may mean well when you say this, but it can be difficult for others to hear their loss was meant to happen.
- “I know how you feel” or “I felt the same when…” - Every person and situation is unique. It’s best not to compare it with your own.
- Words like “You should…” or “You will…” - Advice and predictions might not be welcome at this time. It’s more comforting to offer unconditional condolences and support.
- Don’t mention anything painful or graphic about the loss. Instead, reminisce about fond memories.
While your recipient is likely receiving many condolence messages, gifts, flowers and plants at this time, it’s also likely that every single one brings them comfort and support. If you want to send a gift along with your sympathy card, Lovingly has a variety of choices to help you show how much you care. You could even send a remembrance gift every year to offer your continued support.
